Star Children
Companionship for parents who lost their child far too soon
Whether before, during, or shortly after birth — the loss of a star child is a farewell for which there are often no words. I accompany you and your family gently through this time, regardless of how far the pregnancy had progressed or whether your child was able to carry a name.
A pain that often stays hidden
A star child is rarely acknowledged by those around us the way other losses are. There may be no photo, no shared memories, sometimes not even a name that others know. And yet the pain is real, and the grief deserves just as much room as any other.
I know how this pain feels — my wife and I lost a child too. Back then, there was no grief companionship for us, no one to walk with us through that time. We suffered for years, each in our own way, and often entirely alone with what was going on inside us.
It is precisely out of this experience that my wish grew: no parent should be left alone with this grief. No one should have to endure what we had to endure back then, without someone there to listen, to hold, and to accompany.
If you would like to learn more about my own path: in episode 2 of my podcast "A Space for Grief" I speak more openly about that time and about how faith and grief came together for me.
To be honest: my additional qualification
I am currently working towards a dedicated qualification (Munich) for accompanying star-child parents. That doesn't mean I can't be there for you today — my experience as a grief companion, priest and funeral speaker, as well as my own loss, already carry real weight. The training deepens this further, specifically for the particular questions surrounding star children.
What I can do for you
In our conversations there is room for everything that is within you — for anger, for feelings of guilt that are often unfounded but there nonetheless, for the silence that sometimes says more than words. I also have an open ear for your relationship, for parents rarely grieve in the same rhythm, and that can be an added burden, even though both carry the same pain.
For your star child's farewell, if you wish, I can take on everything from a single hand: give the funeral address, accompany the burial and — as an ordained priest — hold a farewell service. Religious or secular, exactly as suits your child and you. Even where no legal burial obligation applies, I am glad to help you find the farewell that feels right for you.
There is no deadline for this grief. It remains a part of you — and it may. If you would like companionship on this path, I am here for you.